31-year-old man calls his fiancé “beggy” for asking for a formal proposal: ‘Instead of feeling excited about a proposal or a ring, I don’t really want either anymore because it feels tainted’

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Olivia Arocena • Writer and Editor
Jul 27, 2026 1:45 PM EDT

Inversion of marriage

I'm going to be very careful because this is a little funny, but it's also very serious, and there is a slight element of inversion that's interesting to me. On the one hand, we've got a man telling his partner she is "beggy" after she asked for something, and on the other, we've got a woman who got legally married, still calls her husband her "boyfriend," and thinks the legally marrying part is the least official bit, whilst the party and the kneeling down are the 'real thing'; all that sounds a little backwards to me, but well.

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    The proposal she imagined

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  • My boyfriend (M31) called me (F30)"beggy" for asking about a proposal, and I can't seem to get over it.

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years. Four years ago, we got legally married so we could move abroad for his job. We haven't told
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  • anyone because it was more of a practical decision than a wedding, and he said he didn't want to make a big deal out of it as he always said he'd still
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  • give me a proper proposal and that we'd eventually have a real wedding so our families would feel excited when it happened. I've mentioned about going to
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  • buy our own rings previously but he has always said he wants to do it as a surprise like a normal engagement.
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    The moment of the engagement

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  • This year we celebrated 7 years together, and we've recently started talking about having children. During a conversation, I
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  • asked whether he'd been thinking about proposing because I'dreally love to wear an engagement ring. I said I'm getting older and
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  • feel like I'm wasting years not getting to experience that part of our relationship. His response was to call me "beggy" and say it was a "beggy thing to ask."
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    The man before he called her "beggy"

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  • While we can obviously argue that the woman already has the most important part of her marriage (the long-lasting partnership and the legal commitment), she evidently considers the symbolic part even more important. Now that we stated that, it’s still weird that her partner reacts by calling her “beggy”; that’s a really humiliating adjective. Some commentators are saying things like “You should have dumped him on the spot,” but sincerely, I think that’s crazy; they evidently have had a good relationship for seven years, otherwise they wouldn’t be married. Of course, there are exceptions to what I just said, but most of the time, a relationship that lasted so long is working.

  • He has since apologised and said "beggy" was the wrong word and not what he meant. But I can't stop thinking about it. Instead
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  • of feeling excited about a proposal or a ring, I don't really want either anymore because it feels tainted. Would you be able to
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  • move past this as just a poor choice of words, or would it stick with you too? I'm wondering if I'm making too much of it, but I genuinely can't seem to let it go.
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  • kdfailshot123 It's funny that you guys think the paperwork is the formality and that the wedding is what makes you married lol.
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  • Spazz Jazz88 Wait...youre married and you call him your boyfriend. Ma'am, thats your husband.
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  • rbf4eva How utterly humiliating. Why would you let anyone, never mind a man you are MARRIED TO, humiliate you like this?
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  • Even though I don’t think she should’ve dumped him on the spot, the negative adjective should be addressed as a red flag, because he is getting defensive when she asks for public recognition of their love, and that sort of thing is not to be taken lightly. At any rate, the proposal thing isn’t even about public recognition, not like parties are; it could very well be something she wants and values, and even if he doesn’t, would it be so hard to provide it to her? Of course, it would be better if she didn’t ask for it, but he can always wait and surprise her when she least expects it, right?

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